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Identify a difficult emotional situation from your own life experience where you encountered a problem with someone else and had a strong emotional response to it.

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Week 11 Assignment: Emotions
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Emotions Assignment
This week’s assignment will focus on emotions.
Assignment Objective
Understand the influence of emotions, self-concept, and self-disclosure on interpersonal
communication
Directions
For this assignment, you will be practicing the REBT tool for managing emotions.
Step One: Identify Your Difficult Emotional Experience
Identify a difficult emotional situation from your own life experience where you
encountered a problem with someone else and had a strong emotional response to it.
Provide a brief background description of the incident (see example below).
Step Two: Apply the REBT Tool for Managing Emotions
If you need a reminder about REBT re-watch this video.
video. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UkYxo13bUXM&feature=youtu.be)

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(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UkYxo13bUXM&feature=youtu.be)
Record your work through each step of the ABC process of Rational-Emotive Behavior
Therapy. See tips under each step in the example below. That is what your paper must
look like (and includes a step D and E) Be sure you identify the fallacies of emotion
and dispute them clearly in Step D; include at least one suggestion on how you
might have handled the situation differently in Step E!
Step Three: Submit Your Assignment
Type out your responses and submit via Canvas. Please submit as a Word doc
attachment. Label each part of the model. Use good grammar and sentence structure.
Sample Assignment (Use this Exact Format, Using Each Label)
Label each section like this example does.
Description: Last year, my wife completely forgot to acknowledge my birthday – no gift,
no card, no “happy birthday” wish or nothing!
A (Activating Event): The background information you described in the Description will
probably cover this, so just clarify here what, started the whole emotional response you
experienced. My wife forgot my birthday.
B (Beliefs & Self-talk): The idea here is to record your thoughts at the time, the things
you said to yourself about the situation. Don’t worry about sorting through which thoughts
are rational and which are not – just record what you said to yourself!) 1) “She really
should remember this stuff – when people are important to you, you make it a priority to
remember important milestones.” (2) “I’m an adult and can get over it, but what if she
forgets our kid’s birthdays? I’ll never be able to explain it to my kids that mommy doesn’t
care!” (3) “This could have been a really nice day for me if she hadn’t blown it by
forgetting and making me feel insignificant!”

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C (Consequences): Describe the effects those beliefs you had about the situation had
for you, both emotionally and behaviorally. What were the results? I’m felt anger and
resentment, frustrated about the whole day and that overshadowed any positives. I
physically and emotional withdrew from my wife. I was nauseous and got a headache. I
was determined to make sure she never forget our children’s special days.
D (Dispute): This step is the key to this tool working! Some of the ideas we hold are
rational and productive; others are irrational and debilitating. The difference between the
two really is in the results — are the emotions leading you towards productive behaviors
or destructive ones? In this step you will pick two emotional fallacies you had and
then dispute them.
This step asks you to sort through your original beliefs from step B and determine which
are rational and productive and which are irrational, and then to dispute (point out the
errancy in) the irrational ones. Choose two fallacies. Be sure to very clearly identify
the fallacies of emotion you discovered yourself using (from part B – beliefs) and
then form a clear, solid dispute of those irrational ideas. Go back to the module
that lists the fallacies if you need a refresher. Define the two fallacies in your paper.
Again, choose two fallacies and then dispute them. Examples:
For example: (1) I had the fallacy of perfection which says that my wife should be able to
handle every situation with skill. That is not true. I can dispute this by saying, “Yes, it
would be nice if she had remembered my birthday, but nobody is perfect and can always
remember every milestone. It was bound to happen sometime that she’d forget one of
them – she has had a lot on his plate the last couple of weeks with her dad being sick. I’m
sure she’ll make it up to me somehow.”
Another example (2): I had the fallacies of overgeneralization and catastrophic
expectations. The former means something is always true and the latter means
something else terrible is going to happen. I can dispute this by saying: “just because she
forgot this one birthday of mine doesn’t mean it’s going to become a habit or that she’ll
forget our children’s birthdays. Besides, even if she does forget once, it’s not going to
destroy our children’s relationship with their mom. It could be a good lesson in human
error and forgiveness.”

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Another example (3): I had the fallacy of causation which says that my emotions are
caused by other people. I can dispute this by saying/thinking, “I didn’t have to let it ruin
my day! I could have overlooked it and had a good time, and then enjoyed a second
birthday next week when she has promised to take me out. I can’t blame her for the way I
allowed it to get to me.”
E (Enact a Plan): Map out more effective behaviors, not just ideas you could have taken;
include a very clear, effective plan for how you could have better managed the situation
behaviorally — what specific action steps could you have taken?
For example, I will make a list of all the great things she has done for me at milestone
events (anniversaries, birthdays, etc) to remind myself that it isn’t part of a pattern, and
even remind myself of times I’ve messed up to prevent myself from holding her to an
impossibly perfect standard. I might even have a conversation with her about what we
would do if one or the other of us missed a child’s milestone (i.e. how do we handle it with
the child? What do we say?) to have a plan in place.
Submit this assignment as a Word document attachment
Keep in mind…
You should complete the reading before answering completing this assignment.
Label each section (A for Activating event, B for Beliefs, etc.). Use 12 point font and
one inch margins.
In step D define the fallacies you are using. Be clear on how you will dispute them.
Have two fallacies and dispute them both.
This assignment is due on Sunday by 11:59pm.
Before submit the assignment, check the rubric so you know exactly how your score
will be determined.
Submission
Submit via Canvas
Grading

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I will use the attached rubric to grade your assignment.
Rubric
To view the rubric, click on the three vertical dots in the upper right corner of the discussion forum.

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Criteria Ratings Pts
2.0 pts
5.0 pts
5.0 pts
10.0 pts
Description and Activating
Event
In the Description and
Activating Event you
described a real emotional
response you
experienced. You provided
background on the
situation in the
Description.
2.0 pts
Full Marks
Issue under discussion is genuinely
relevant and significantly affected
your own emotions and/or your
relationship with the other person
1.0 pts
Partial Marks
Issue under
discussion was
hypothetical and/or
unimportant and easy
to resolve
0.0 pts
No
Marks
B: Beliefs and Self Talk
You recorded your
thoughts at the time, the
things you said to yourself
about the situation.
5.0 pts
Full Marks
Clear description of your
thoughts at the time and the
things you said to yourself
about the situation
3.0 pts
Partial Marks
There is a
description
but it lacks
some detail.
2.0 pts
Partial
Marks
There are
significant
details
missing.
0.0 pts
No
Marks
C: Consequences
You described the effects
those beliefs you had
about the situation had for
you, both emotionally and
behaviorally. What were
the results?
5.0 pts
Full Marks
You described the effects
those beliefs you had
about the situation had for
you, both emotionally and
behaviorally. What were
the results?
3.0 pts
Partial Marks
There is a
description of the
consequences and
effects of your
beliefs but it lacks
some detail.
2.0 pts
Partial
Marks
There are
significant
details
missing.
0.0 pts
No
Marks
D: Dispute
Identify two fallacies of
emotion you discovered
yourself using (from part B
– beliefs) and then form a
clear, solid dispute of
those irrational ideas.
10.0 pts
Full Marks
At least TWO
fallacies of
thinking/emotion
(from the selftalk in Step B)
are clearly and
accurately
identified by
name and
defined. You
dispute both of
them.
8.0 pts
Partial Marks
At least TWO
fallacies of
thinking/emotion
(from the self-talk
in Step B) are
clearly and
accurately
identified by name
and defined. You
dispute both of
them but they are
not labeled,
accurately
described or
5.0 pts
Partial
Marks
You
only
have
one
fallacy
and/or
dispute.
2.0 pts
Partial
Marks
There are
significant
elements
missing.
0.0 pts
No
Marks

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Total Points: 30.0
Criteria Ratings Pts
5.0 pts
3.0 pts
something is
missing.
E: Enact a plan
You mapped out more
effective behaviors, not
just ideas you could have
taken; include a very clear,
effective plan for how you
could have better
managed the situation
behaviorally — what
specific action steps could
you have taken?
5.0 pts
Full Marks
Plan of action is clearly
described and demonstrates
successful adjustment in
thinking/emotion and includes
at least one clear suggestion
for enhancing self-esteem
3.0 pts
Partial
Marks
There is
a plan
but a
few
details
are
missing
2.0 pts
Partial Marks
Plan of action is
vague or unclear
OR shows little
success at
reframing
thinking/emotion.
0.0 pts
No
Marks
Work quality
Correct format, you have
good grammar,
punctuation and sentence
structure.
3.0 pts
Full Marks
Correct format, you have good
grammar, punctuation and sentence
structure.
2.0 pts
Partial
Marks
A few
errors
1.0 pts
Partial
Marks
Significant
errors
0.0 pts
No
Marks

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